Do married couples meet in the afterlife when they both expire? Consider this scenario: A member of this human race has been deceased for a number of months or years, and very often, when their spouse dies, people say, “Oh, now they’ll be together again!” They believe the couple will continue as they were on Earth, bound together by their wedding vows. Most marriage ceremonies include this statement: Till death do us part. I assume that means in this life, although the Bible mentions the believers passing from Death to Life. John 5:24.
Since many marriages are long-lasting (think Jimmy and Rosalynn Carter), some people automatically assume their unions will continue in the afterlife—perhaps forgetting that the couple will no longer be flesh and blood humans with physical bodies. However, the reality may or may not be true. We don’t know for sure if their spirits and human personalities survive death and reconnect on the other side. (Having had a few astral experiences myself, I have reason to believe they may, but I have no proof.)
In my opinion, the situation could change if either person had been married more than once: Do they meet their latest spouse when they die? Or do the former spouses also show up to meet the recently deceased? For example, one of my grandmothers had been married three times (that I know of). Would all three of my ex-grandfathers have been among her welcoming committee when she passed? Suppose those men had also remarried—would their wives and former wives accompany them to welcome his latest spouse, and would they bring their previous mates?
Suppose those extra spouses had hated their wives or husbands during their earthly marriages. What then? Will everyone simply get along with each other because they’re now spirits? Would they still have the same personalities? We can take the question a little further and ask if this is possible if a certain spouse had physically abused or murdered his/her physical wife. Would she welcome his presence, or would he not be there at all? Perhaps he wouldn’t be allowed to welcome a former mate whose life he’d ended in a fit of anger.
The welcoming gate would need to open wide to admit all the deceased spirits related to the new arrival—plus their own former earthly spouses. The situation could become very crowded indeed, especially if the extra spirits were accompanied by their own former spouses. I assume everyone will know everyone else, but that’s a lot of memory for such a crowd of possibly trillions of ex-spouses! And would those who had disliked their spouses on Earth still dislike them, or would death give them a sudden change of heart so they held no grudges? If they still harbor bad feelings or even hatred toward their exes, I can see many arguments erupting among the masses of deceased wives, husbands, ex-spouses, and their ex-spouses way back to Adam and Eve—with everyone yelling and arguing and fighting at once. Such a scene could not possibly be called heaven.
I believe the situations I’ve just described would not be possible, and here’s why: We are bits of intelligent, pulsating energy that the universe is composed of. If we take on material bodies at birth just to experience (or learn) how it feels to operate in solid, physical bodies, we would likewise shed those temporary bodies when we’re done with them but likely retain the knowledge and lessons learned while in a material form … and once again become the intelligent bits of pulsating energy and Atoms that continually create the Cosmos.
You decide.
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